10 Things I Learned From My Aunt

This weekend I visited my family in Rhode Island. The reason for the visit was supposed to be joyous - my parents are celebrating their 50th anniversary and my sister and I want to celebrate that. Unfortunately, life got in the way. My aunt has been battling cancer for about 20 years just found out that the war is coming to an end.There are so many things that I have learned from my family that have helped shape the man I am. I wanted to be able to put into writing some of what I have learned and share it while they can still appreciate the impact they have had. I am still working on the toast for my parents party - which we will eventually have but I wanted to be able to tell my Aunt some of what she has passed onto me.

Aunt Janet, this top ten list is for you.

  1. Always say thank you. Sometimes you don't want to - especially when it hurts.
  2. Never give up on family. Kids disappoint - even us adult kids. But, we rely on the faith and knowledge installed in us by our parents.
  3. Love your kids fiercely and your grand kids more.
  4. Put God first.
  5. Wives can use screwdrivers better than men.
  6. We are all special needs kids.
  7. My mother is smart and strong.
  8. Always have the newest gadgets, the fastest computer, the coolest phone. Use them to show off pictures/videos of your grand kids.
  9. You can't be good at everything. I'm not sure if it is family legend but the story is my Aunt gave my Uncle a choice - either she could be good in the kitchen, or good in the bedroom. My Aunt is an 'ok' cook.
  10. Life is too short. When the end is coming, no matter how you prepare, it doesn't seem like you have enough time to do everything you want - just time enough to do what needs to be done.

I talked to my Aunt today, got to hold her, laugh with her and cry with her. I am amazed by the conviction she has. She told us that she isn't afraid, that there are a lot of people waiting to welcome her. She still wants to do so much more though. She wants to see her grand kids grow into adulthood. She wants to be there for her daughters and son. She wants to be there for my Uncle. Auntie Janet, you have kept the faith, run the race, fought the good fight. I know you want to do so much more but you have done all you need to do. We all love you.

2 Timothy 4: 3-8 For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry. For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.

Do Good, FaithBob Ferretti